Sharing the lesson I've gleaned from 2+ weeks of shelter-in-place: learning how to tackle the psychological and emotional toll of COVID-19, what I call, the "ugly reckonings." These equate to the realizations of busying myself so much, that I never truly had to face the person I saw in the mirror. That I didn't have to do the work of accepting her where she is, understanding her needs, and unpacking what's holding her back from the life she wants.
DISCLAIMER: It has come to my attention that some folk believe that I "have it all together." Please accept this disclaimer as my way of saying three things: 1) I am figuring this out (and making this up) right alongside you dear reader; 2) I am not immune to feeling completely lost in tasks that … Continue reading Overcoming Periods of Self Doubt…or How to Win a Fool’s Game
*In a June 2016 letter to the judge, Dan Turner, father of rapist, Brock Turner, wrote: “His life will never be the one he dreamed about and worked so hard to achieve...He’d never even expressed violence before the incident in question...That is a steep price to pay for 20 minutes of action. Out of his … Continue reading POEM. Open letter on behalf of Brock Turner’s “20 minutes of action”
The secret? Simply ask for what you want. Yeah…that’s it. It’s actually one of the few things we must rely on since mind reading is still generally unavailable. Sometimes, we’re so afraid of being a burden to others that we shoulder the weight all by ourselves. However, asking for help is a sign of strength … Continue reading D176: Asking for Help So You Actually Get It
As a black woman born to poor immigrants, I don’t have the luxury of relying on “good enough,” I know my work is often inspected more critically. Marginalized identities cannot settle for “good enough” because the sad truth is—we’re taught to aim low. Thus, I’ve committed to proofreading and attending every office hour to overcome … Continue reading D162: Why “Good” is Never Good Enough for a Black Woman.
Your entire life is the sum of your relationships. Think about it. I didn't realize how monumental relationships truly were. I knew that I loved my family and that was the most important relationship that I had up until this point. I never considered that my life can be wholly represented by the relationships I … Continue reading D115: Your Whole Life is the Sum of Your Relationships
I can hear it every evening from my second floor window. It's out in the sun whenever I'm hunched over a computer cranking out a huge assignment. It's in every hallway while I'm grinding through linear algebra proofs in office hours. It's "FUN." And everyone else is having it. So you've probably experienced this before. That everyone … Continue reading D32: Major F.O.M.O.